When is the last time you attended a cocktail party or networking event voluntarily? For some people it is easier to make a formal speech than to engage in a one on one networking forum.  No matter how you approach it, networking is almost inevitable, especially for entrepreneurs. This could be a scary realization especially for introverts. But with enough preparation and some out-of-the-box approaches that cater to your comfort level, you will be able to focus more on business connections and less on what others think. Below are some networking tips for you;

1.      Remember That Everyone There Wants to Meet You

The beauty of networking events is that everyone is there to meet new people, and that includes you. Unlike at a bar or a party, there is no need to feel insecure or self-conscious because simply by being there, attendees are letting you know that they are interested in meeting new people.

2.      Plan Ahead.

Figure out what you want to talk about ahead of time and who you want to talk to. Then prepare as much as you can. Choose three topics you feel very comfortable discussing and use them as ice breakers. Make a list of the ones you would really like to chat with and make the best out of the time you have. Also practice introducing yourself at non-business events or events outside of your industry.

3.      Build Relationships Online First/ Do Some Networking Even Before the Event

Find out who is going to be in the event and try to connect with some through email or social media. Find the people with common interests or whom you have mutual connections with. You will feel much more comfortable striking up a conversation in person if you have done some connecting ahead of time. For introverts online interaction is much less stress-producing than face-to-face meetings. Look them up online to find out a bit of their work history to make starting and maintaining a conversation easier.

4.      Find a Networking Wings person

For any networking event, it can be helpful to have a networking “wings person.” Together, you can naturally draw others into your conversation. This is particularly true if your networking wings person is knowledgeable about an industry you are unfamiliar with. If nothing else, the event will provide you with an opportunity to get to know your networking wings person better. See if you can bring a friend, co-worker, or even an acquaintance along. There is just something about knowing at least one person at an event that can make it less nerve-wrecking. Bonus points if the person you know feels comfortable starting conversations with strangers.

5.      Understand Your Specific Purpose for Attending the Event

Before going to an event, make sure you truly understand your specific purpose for attending. This can be supporting a colleague, meeting a business contact for the first time, watching a specific keynote or panelist, networking with friends and co-workers, or a combination of those things. If you understand why you are attending the event, you will be more comfortable and productive.

6.      Wear Your Icebreaker

If you struggle with making the opening line or introduction, wear your icebreaker. Add a colorful watch or accessory, an unconventional blazer; something that gets people talking. The goal is to have people approach you, and once you joke around the icebreaker, you can transition seamlessly into business. A great smile is can also be a good icebreaker.

7.       Ask A Lot of Questions

Most people like to talk about themselves, so make that easy for others. When you enter a conversation, just look for a question you can ask in the first minute. Instead of giving yourself the pressure to talk, give others what they want. Let them talk and in return be a good listener.

8.      Take Breaks and Listen

Introverts recharge when alone and in silence. If there are no breaks built into the event you are attending, make some. Step outside, take a walk around the hotel or find someplace you can be alone for 5 to 10 minutes. This will give you fresh energy to keep listening. Listening is less draining for you and flatters the other person.

9.       Give Cut-Off Times

When you go to an event, give yourself time out. Set a specific time during the event that you can leave. If the event goes for six hours, tell yourself that after one hour you can leave, but during that hour you are the most extroverted person in the room. You only have to do this for 60 minutes, so go do it! 

10.  Look for Speaking Opportunities

As an introvert myself, I look for opportunities to speak at events. This helps open the door for others to engage with me after we have shared an experience together.  If you are not good at chit chats, chances are that you can make a great speaker where formal structured content is required. This also develops your speaking skills.